Ramiro Can Predict Your 2021!
“Every year is going to be the same until you decide to change yourself”
I recently had a conversation with some good friends that included some speculation about how the rest of this year will unfold. We’ve got a new president, there’s progress on the vaccine front, and it feels like we could be on track for a totally different year. Or are we?
I told my friends, “I know what this year is going to be like. It’s going to be exactly like last year.” They laughed. In so many ways, 2020 was unprecedented. How could 2021 be exactly the same?! The answer is pretty simple, really: Every year is going to be the same until you decide to change yourself. We don’t have control over the external things that happen in our lives, whether that’s falling in love or living through a life-altering pandemic. If it had been in our power, I know most of us would have chosen for things to go differently last year!
But there’s one thing we can always change, and that change will lead to our happiness or sadness, our frustration or triumph. That thing is ourselves.
I listen to a lot of talks by life coaches like Tony Robbins and Jim Rowan. In one of those recent lectures, the speaker tied this concept in with the idea of the changing seasons. The seasons are like the outside forces I mentioned above. We can’t control the weather, but we do know that just as the sun rises and sets, summer will turn into fall, fall into winter, and winter into spring. Similarly, difficulty follows opportunity, and recession follows progression.
Though most of us have a favorite and least favorite season — We may be in yours right now! — each one plays an important role. That’s true for the literal seasons of the Earth and the metaphorical seasons of our changing lives. Here are the lessons of the four seasons of change.
1. Learn how to handle the winters.
I’ve gotta tell you, this is the one that really sticks with me. I guess the hard things always do! And some winters are going to be hard, but instead of wishing things were easier, start wishing you were better able to handle them. In the winters of our lives, we may experience a broken heart, an unprofitable quarter (or year!), or any other number of disappointments. But these are unavoidable. I mean, who hasn’t had a broken heart?
Learning how to handle those disappointments and work through them is akin to getting a warm pair of winter boots with good tread. Both allow you to move more gracefully.
2. Take advantage of the spring.
The first spring blossoms are so welcome after a long winter, but you know what? They won’t last! Instead of mourning that, enjoy them as much as you can while they’re here. Spring is a time of opportunity, and you have to take advantage when those opportunities arise. Life is short and nothing is guaranteed, so stop and smell the flowers while they’re blooming.
3. Protect your crops in the summer.
If you’ve ever grown a garden, you know how gratifying it is to see your little seedlings turn into edible fruits and veggies. But to see those seedlings grow, you have to protect them from bugs and weeds. It’s the same in the summers of our lives, we have to protect what we’ve grown from outside attacks. Once you’ve worked hard to build something, put supports in place to ensure it’s longevity.
4. Learn how to reap in the fall without complaining.
This is similar to the concept of reaping what you sow. The idea is to take full responsibility for anything that happens to you. Did you grow an awesome garden in the summer or have a record-breaking quarter at work? Awesome. Be happy and enjoy it. Did you forget to water your plants or fail to meet your quarterly goals? Instead of blaming someone else or complaining, own up to your mistake.
What season are you in right now in your life? Whether you’re having a dark winter moment or enjoying a sweet but fleeting spring-like stage, remember the four lessons above. While you cannot change those circumstances, you can change how you react to them. And if all else fails, remember that no matter what, sooner or later a new season will arrive.